We are constantly sending negative messages to ourselves. Things like “you’ll never amount to anything, you’re not smart enough, you’re not skilled enough, don’t have what it takes”, and so on. What too frequently happens is we get into a self-fulfilling prophecy loop. We thread together a self perpetuating cycle by thinking a negative thought about ourselves, then constantly reminding ourselves that this negative trait is true.
Your inner dialogue is one of the most powerful influences on your self concept and your self esteem. Try something different from the usual negative self statements: try positive self-talk. Repeat positive, uplifting comments to yourself in your mind. You may find, that you will start believing it. When you believe positive things about yourself, the most amazing things can happen and you could become the person you always wanted to be.